Allow me to explain my absence from here, and apologise for neglecting my dA friends:
I'm in a terrible position... my mother is nearly 96 and currently in a
frail care place in Fish Hoek (because her sister used to be there too,
but she died in October) - now they've raised their rates to R13,500
p/month... and being an only child, there is simply NO WAY I can pay that
every month. (In non-South African terms : this is a HUGE lot of money!!)
Now I'm hanging on the phone to various other retirement places... you
can't imagine how depressing this is. Trying to find a suitable place
*with vacancy* to move her to. I didn't expect to need to do this once I
moved her to where she's now; she only moved in there 2 years ago after my
father passed away.
On his death bed, I promised my father that I'd take care of Mum.
I know that at this place at least she's made a few friends and the
staff know and understand her and her needs.
Honestly, how much longer does she have? Moving her would probably mean
she'd only last a month or two after relocation due to stress, and that
would mean for the rest of my life I'd live with that guilt.
If we leave her as is... she may well potter on for another 3 years,
completely draining us. Things are bad enough as they were, this
is a very steep increase and I honestly am totally depressed.
Her doctor says she's physically sound and should be able to withstand
the move - the place I've found for her is far closer to home, so we would
be able to visit her much more frequently than the once a week I currently
manage, due to the distance and time factor involved in driving so far.
Of course, with it being a holiday weekend, there are few administrative
staff available to speak to in order to make arrangements or to visit
alternative facilities to view them.
*** sigh ***
I wish you all a lovely Easter <3
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